Question:
All,
I have my first PS consult this Friday (YEAH) and my husband is going to come with me. My question is I want to interview several PS and I am wondering if I should try to get him to go to all of the interviews.
Did you take your DH? Did they get much out of it or are they more of a distraction?
Thanks,
Marcy
Answer:
My husband did not come to my consults, but I think it's awfully nice that yours is going. Personally, I did not even think to ask my husband if he wanted to go. He isnt too interested in the process, just the outcome.
Mary Ann
TT,MR 4/21
Answer:
Hey Marcy.
I can tell you from my experience, it was nice having someone there with me to give their input of each ps. My boyfriend was going with me but at the last moment couldn't get off work so his mother went instead . I wasn't too sure about that but it all worked out great & she is super supportive of me doing this. Heck, she's even thinking about having some work done herself. Hehe. So, I think if your husband wants to be with you, I say GREAT! At least then he will know what your'e talking about when trying to decide on a ps. Believe me, they are not all the same!!!
Good luck to you!
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My husband came with me. I encouraged him to because he will think of questions to ask that I don't think of. It's also nice to have another opinion on his impression of the . My DH didn't think I needed a TT until after we met with the PS and he was ready to go forward with the surgery before I was. So, yes, take him to all if he is able. I think it will also help him to understand the extent of the surgery and all that is involved. You'll be glad to have his support.
Good Luck!
Becky
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I say YES take your dh if he'll go. He needs to be aware what is going to happen to you and be prepared mentally and physically the same as you, my dh went with me and I go with him. (Everytime)
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Thanks everyone! I will bring him along then. He has been great and really supportive of my doing this (I am still feeling guilty about wanting to spend so much money on myself).
I have really loved this board! It has been so educational for me!
Thanks,
Marcy
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I'm dealing with feeling guilty as well. I'm a single mom of 3 and we all know how expensive these procedures are. I just finally came to the conclusion that I WILL have a TT during my lifetime & would much rather enjoy the benefits at age 31 rather than 51.
I love this site as well!!! I love all the support of just knowing there are so many women out there that has either gone through this or is going through this....
Answer:
Mine didn't come with because we know our PS personally. However, I think it's a good idea that the husbands go. They can get a better understanding of the procedure and sometimes they don't quite get the idea that you will be completely dependent for a period of time. Even though I told DH that our PS said he would have to take about two weeks off, he kept trying to convince me that it wouldn't be that long. I was so upset at one point b/c he just didn't get it. I think had he come along and heard my actually tell him, maybe it would have sunk in more. For some reason a wife's credibility means nothing unless her doctor backs it up, y'know? Anyway, sometimes the guys can think of questions to ask that we don't, too. I think all around it's a good idea. My DH ended up being a complete saint the whole time, and said he really enjoyed being away from the office for two weeks!