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Amanda: Your son is in a place that we who live in this world have to wait many years to get to. We have the pain, sorrow, sickness, hard work, worry, heartbreak, struggles of every day life, and evil that we all have to endure before we can reach that peaceful and beautiful place at the end of it. Just think, your son never had to go through any of those things. The accident WAS NOT your fault. Just remember what a wonderful place your son is in.
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Amanda, your son was killed by a terrible accident, not because of you. Please, please forgive yourself for any mistakes you've made. I think of all the people who really don't appreciate their kids and you aren't one of them. You don't deserve to feel this way every day. Maybe you could make something positive come out of this tragedy - I don't know what that might be. You'll have to decide that for yourself. But make your precious baby's death a catalyst for change, not a reason to mourn for the rest of your life. That would be the best way to honor him. Take joy in your daughter - she's still with you and very much alive. She needs you and you need her.
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It was a car "accident", there's the reason we call them accidents.
You did not have the accident on purpose.
What's even more simple to understand is that:
If you think or feel that your son knew or even now knows about complex things like forgivness, then it comes to reason that he too would also know how sad you feel and also know that it could have only been an accident. He would not want you to be sad forever.
For now, you have a family on this side of existance that needs you first and foremost including taking care of your own health, for now, don't let this be more than a memory and try to only remember the good things about carrying him while you were able. You will be with him again one day. Peace is rarely found in pills.
Goodluck and many healing thoughts to you.
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im so sorry for your lost my condolence goes out for you :\ its not your fault its not like you did anything to endanger him remember its an accident please keep your head up the god lord has your baby in his arms now
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~` So sorry to hear about the accident, but like the above entry, everything has it reason. we make our deals way before we come to learn. 5 years is a long time to struggle with this. I do not know how you are affecting the rest of your kin, & the friends that try to support you. But I will take a gander, that you have pushed many away from you. Not by choice, but by they do not know what to do for you. so they back off. (I know, I lost my son 8 years ago this week, remember the comet hail-bop?), I told him when he was passing to get on the comet & go. It gave me much comfert until I read about the heaven gaters that killed them-selfs. Oh well, but, it was only to be in view for about 2 weeks. I lived in Albany NY at that time, after his passing, I went to CA for a getaway, then for a visit to AZ to my folks, & the last night it was around, I saw there.(it stayed for 6) It was also holy week. So I do have some "good" things to associate that time with him, (he was 6.5, & in a wheel chair, he had medical trouble, but it was still a shock). You do not have any of those memories. Had he lived thru the accident, it may of been more of a hell for him & your faimly, everything happens for a reason. We may never learn, but the journy is a long constant teaching. You have healthy kids, & a faimly that loves you. You feed on there energy, & love. Be proud of your lost angel, he made sure you had the gift of life. Take the gifts that you have & do not make a sad thing, a bad thing. You are doing the right thing for reaching out here, I am proud to see the honesty. But please, do not punish yourself, or your husband, or the memory of your angel. ~~~~
~~ Blessed be
Kisa