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My Great grandfrather just died, 11th oct 2004 at 1pm , he was 84 years old. Every1 around me is quite sad as you can imagin, but im so damn angry that I will never see or speak to him ever again. He had cancer and he was too old to operate and there just wasnt a cure for him, so we all waited for the inevitable.
I mean just 3 days ago i was talking to him, shook his hand, that was the last time i seen him alive. He got Extremely bad in the last 2 days.
The day before he died he was quite bad, couldnt really talk or make any sense, but he Shook every1ns hand and said, he is going to be with nan and he wont be around 2moro, (my great grandmother, died about 5 years ago)
SO 2moro came.
I was going to go and see him up the hospital when the nurse called my family up there, but i couldnt go, i didnt want to experience seeing a dying man die infront of me. SO my brother and my mum and nan left as they walked into see him he Died.
I am not a believer in a GOD, but i thinik some people need it, and i think he did... Which may of helped him through it to the end.
Its just so weird that he not around anymore. he lived about 10 seconds walk away from me, so i seen him everyday.
it just doesnt make anysense, I wont see him for the rest of my life, younger generation like me will prob live 100-200 years or more and memories will fade.
thats all i really have now, is memories. That last day i spoke to him just keeps replaying in my head
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i think im gonna buy a punch bag,
i need to let my anger out
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I know your feelings of anger. I also am very angry. I lost a daughter 14 yrs. ago to liver cancer. Sense then i have lost both grandparents to cancer, a brother to sucide and 4 close friends to various deseases. two weeks ago my boyfriend left to go to work when he never came home. I knew something was wrong. Very responsible always on time. no calls or texts from night b-4. stomach turning when he lfet that something was wrong. He crashed on his motorcycle and even tho I looked in the ditches for 2 days in 110 degree heat I couldn't find him. A police helicopter was sent out to find him, and did within the hour. He was gone. The only man I can really say treated me well and my kids too. He was my world and I his. I will never find a man like that again and I know this. I have guilt of what I could have done, what I should have done. My youngest has lots of questions I can not answer cause i am asking same questions. well have to go for now thank you for listening
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I think it's totally natural to be angry when you first lose someone Matt. Coping with death is one of the hardest things we have to face. I was so mad for the longest time, I had a case of the why me syndrome. Life's not fair, but death is just a part of living, cliche as that may be. The most important thing you can do is to rely on the positive times you had with your great grandfather. Life is way too short to focus on the negatives for very long. You're never going to forget your great grandfather, but living day to day will get easier, trust me. One thing I found especially helpful was keeping a journal, putting feelings into words is a great way to cope with all the unanswered questions you may have.
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I need to know how to find closure in a death? I mean it's the worse thing that could happen to a person!.. the one thats left behind!... certainly death does not mean love or we wouldn't die?...I know the Bible says "the dead knows not"...therefore there not in pain or even know of there past exsistance...how does anybody know what it's like to die/or being dead? other than jesus.
When two people are married and love each other more and more everyday then suddlenly that all ends comes to a abrupt hault.because of Death/ no matter what the circumstances are at the time...death is something we all can't escape...so why should one worry with Death?