Question:
I'm a 40 yo, that has been a caregiver to my dh who is 47 for three years.
He was diag'd with throat cancer back in 2003, and even though his cancer is gone, has suffered numerous health problems since. We have two young kids, ages 7 and almost 9, and life has been rough.
This past summer he almost didn't make it from a bout of pneumonia and malnutrition, which has been and ongoing problem since his chemo and radiation. He did get a feeding tube in this past summer, (second one, first one was removed due to it puncturing into his intestines)
I've been doing all the caretaking, driving (he can't drive, and I just don't feel comfy letting him) childraising, yardwork, housework, ect. And working full time nights up until recently. I just had my doc sign me out in July on stress leave.
My work is starting to give me a hard time now. I'll get thru it somehow.
I'm glad I found this place.
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Wow you sound like a tough woman. You'll make it we all will its just nice to know there are other people out there too.
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I'm a 40 yo, that has been a caregiver to my dh who is 47 for three years.
He was diag'd with throat cancer back in 2003, and even though his cancer is gone, has suffered numerous health problems since. We have two young kids, ages 7 and almost 9, and life has been rough.
This past summer he almost didn't make it from a bout of pneumonia and malnutrition, which has been and ongoing problem since his chemo and radiation. He did get a feeding tube in this past summer, (second one, first one was removed due to it puncturing into his intestines)
I've been doing all the caretaking, driving (he can't drive, and I just don't feel comfy letting him) childraising, yardwork, housework, ect. And working full time nights up until recently. I just had my doc sign me out in July on stress leave.
My work is starting to give me a hard time now. I'll get thru it somehow.
I'm glad I found this place.
We're glad to have you here!! Please feel free to vent any frustrations, as well as share any joys.
I know what it's like to be the sole driver. My husband is legally blind, among other things, so he can't drive at all.
If i may, I'd like to offer two bits of advice-
1) do something to give yourself a break once in a while. Even if it's just a 5 minute walk.
2) if you have any friends/ family/ neighbors nearby, you might ask if they'd be willing to help with housework or yardwork. Or if there's someone with kids the same age as yours, they might be willing to take them for a bit once in a while. a lot of times people are happy to help with things like that. It never hurts to ask, and there is no shame in asking. You shouldn't have to do it all yourself.
I hope my advice didn't offend you. I didn't mean to offend. I offered it because I myself have had to learn to ask for help when things get overwhelming.
Please know that the rest of us here are here for you!
Have a great day!!
Becky
Becky
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Hi and thank you!
No, you didn't offend me. I do get a bit of time to myself. Finally. I got the kids into taekwondo recently to let them get rid of some frustration and I can go for free, so I started. It feels so good doing kicks and punches sometimes.
I dont' have much for neighbors that will help, we just moved. As far as family goes, thats another story. I"m still moving stuff after four weeks because I'm doing it myself.
Thanks for the welcome!!!
Its nice not to feel alone
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Your right its not nice to feel alone, thats why this thing is great I don't expect any "life changeing" advice (if i get some that would be great though) its just nice to know that i can vent and others who understand are reading it. Welcome!